As leaders, we get to fill the role of counselor in many people’s lives. There are three steps in giving advice.
✔ Listen ✔ Listen ✔ Listen
Listening is something we must intentionally engage in. Actively oppose the distractions and the thoughts in your [listener] head.
- Don't just hear the words, enthusiastically listen; eye contact and follow along.
- Suspend all judgment. Rather, be discerning. It is easy to jump in with advice especially if what the person shares warrants a viewpoint [your opinion].
- Apply restraint and continue toward understanding.
- Dig deeper. Do not wimp out on the surface stuff by accepting simple answers.
- Be empathetic, yet quietly persistent.
- Good advice is thorough. People who want our advice deserve better than our subjective memory.
- Don't feign intelligence. Defer your advice.
- Connect with the person.
SHALLOW UNDERSTANDING = BAD ADVICE
When we build others through these simple yet thoughtful steps, in most cases, the person seeking advice concludes on their own.
We are often a block in the maze of making sense.
"Finally, be ye all of one mind,
having compassion one of another,
love as brethren, be pitiful,
be courteous:" 1 Peter 3:8
Until next time....be kind to everyone, not just the easy ones.